“Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains, losses and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon shall see them in their proper figures.” – Joseph Addison
Have you ever been there before? You’ve put in a lot of time, energy, and focus on someone or something and you still don’t see the outcome you expected.
How about your day-to-day routines and customs?
Are they yielding positive outcomes for you, or are you “hooked on” patterns that produce almost zero results?
When you realize that your results in some part of your life are not producing the desired results you expected; it may be time to surrender and cut your losses.
Some personal growth experts claim that the external world is rarely where the problem is. They suggest we can merely shift our inner world to solve our problems. As above so below.
Does this work for you? Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.
The truth about personal growth is what once worked, no longer does. And what once seemed like the hard way to do something is now obviously the most logical way to do it.
Do I work on an internal shift first or do I try to change the outside world first Steve Pavlina
The internal change way has validity at times, but I’ve seen some people go crazy with it. They push themselves to tolerate all kinds of bizarre hardships while an easier, more practical solution is staring them right in their face.
If you are more of an internal solution to a problem kind of person then try that method for several weeks and see if that works for you. If you do not see any results then try doing something more straight-forward and practical instead.
Some issues are easy to solve with an internal change shift, while others are much simpler to resolve by using an outer method.
You can also resolve a problem by mixing both methods together.
Don’t become so used to one method over the other. When it comes to personal growth you must have a flexible mind and a flexible approach to solving your problems.
Even a sensible outer solution requires an inner solution too.
Some people will grab on to the inner work of building patience and forgiveness in a situation, when instead what they should focus on is more along the lines of bravery and sufficient personal power.
It often takes less inner work to let go of a negative situation than it does to tolerate it.
So don’t assume that inner work is solely about peace and harmony. Inner work also includes the bravery to stand up for yourself and to claim the life you want. No easy task, I know.
Sometimes you have no other choice then to leave the people, places, or things that you are tolerating just for the sake of getting along.
Remember, it is your life, and it is your job to create a life that makes you happy.
Where Should You Focus Your Attention and Being Authentic
Always, always, always, focus your attention on what you want.
If you want to be financially free then don’t focus on your debts.
If you want to have relationships with people who uplift and empower you, then don’t focus your attention on those relationships that bring you down.
I am a big supporter of either saying out loud or writing down what I want. (Yes, I do sometimes state what I want out loud even if no one is around. It’s actually a lot more awkward if someone is around because they are often wondering what the hell I am talking about. But I digress.)
This is simple honesty and there is nothing wrong with stating what you want because that is the authentic you, and not some “watered down” version of you.
When I started my blog two years ago my goal was to create a somewhat passive income stream while doing what I really enjoy; learning and sharing my skills, knowledge, and abilities.
I made no bones about the fact that I intended to earn money with my blog. I monetized this site from day one with Adsense ads and some affiliate banners.
I know of a couple bloggers who claimed they would never put Adsense on their blogs, or market to their newsletter subscribers, or allow advertising, and sure enough many of them have done all three.
I’ve been a blogger for two years now and I am nowhere near where I thought I would be at this time.
I was contemplating on whether or not to cut my losses with blogging and direct my energy to something more rewarding.
Owning a blog is much like owning real estate because you can sell it and make a handsome profit too, if you put enough work into it.
So I had to ask myself the tough questions and sort out my thoughts about my blogging future.
What I came up with was that I hadn’t done enough to bring exposure to my blog. Last year I only wrote three guest posts and this year I had already written four plus submitted a post to Ezine Articles.
I am going to stick with that plan for the foreseeable future plus work on creating videos for You Tube.
With over 200 million blogs on the web it is easy to get lost in the mix so I definitely need a plan to stand out and become more profitable at the same time.
I am not the quitting type by any stretch so I had to really figure out what is going to give my blog the greatest exposure while still delivering quality blog posts.
I have never taken a break from blogging in the two years since I started it.
You can check my archives and see that I have consistently written new blog posts, maintained my newsletter, and stayed connected on social media sites.
I have a vision for this blog, and with most visions they take consistent effort and consistent focus to produce results.
Everything I learned I want you to be able to do as well.
I don’t claim to be the originator of all ideas and theories. I just take what I learned, and find value in, and share them with you, hoping that it will add some knowledge and value into your life.
My job is to uplift humanity in any way that I can to the best of my ability and to be able to support myself at the same time. No easy task and once I figure that one out I will be sure to share it with you.
So, for me I feel it is time to move on and cut my losses once I exhausted all other possibilities to make something work, whether they are internal shifts in behavior or external.
When it comes to blogging, I still have a lot more experimentation to do before I call it quits.