My personal development journey has been like a roller coaster ride. I have learned much on the ride and of course, I made mistakes along the way. More importantly though, I used those mistakes to guide me in the direction I really want to go. – Justin Mazza
If someone treats you poorly does this mean that you are defective?
We have a tendency to judge ourselves by the way that other people treat us.
Is it true that we train others how to treat us? You bet.
Training other people how to treat us does not mean that you will prevent the other person from being a jerk to you, but it will cause them to re-think the next time that they choose to do it.
I have always wondered why people acted the way that they do including me. This is the main reason that I began my personal development journey 14 years ago.
The first PD book that I read was Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers.
After reading that I began adding books to my life.
From the years 2000-2005 I had an almost daily habit of going to Barnes and Noble, Borders and Greetings and Readings to read books that interested me.
They were always non-fiction books about self-improvement, health, physical exercise, metaphysical, paranormal, alternative history and so on.
My appetite for knowledge grew as I digested and implemented what I learned by reading those books. I also began buying books to add to my home collection and fulfill my dream of having a library full of 1000 books.
I wanted to build a grand library like Harvey Ladew had. Well, that was until I was introduced to the concept of minimalism.
I wound up donating boxes of books to Good Will and The Salvation Army along with other useless stuff that I accumulated over the years. It was refreshing to get rid of all the stuff that was weighing me down.
I didn’t even realize until after I donated at least one-third of my belongings that having less was more.
I still keep up the habit of going through my stuff at least every six months and putting everything into a donation box that I no longer use, except for the stuff that my wife won’t let me. 🙂
I also went through an alkalizing phase where the majority of my diet was natural foods that were alkaline in nature.
After learning and actually alkalizing my diet I could feel the difference in my health and even my skin and eyes were more clear.
I learned about alkalizing by reading a book called The pH Miracle: Balance Your Diet, Reclaim Your Health by Dr Robert Young.
I even went through a phase when I learned about psychic phenomena. I took an online course back in 2003 by Sonia Choquette. It was about learning the basics of using our intuition and Trusting Your Vibes.
I even bought an oracle card deck that had different sayings on it in regards to questions that I would ask. I carried a quartz crystal with me, practiced meditation, divination, pendulums, gave a few psychic readings, automatic writings, contacted my spirit guides and even began having prophetic dreams.
Quick paranormal experience story
One cool thing as a result with my fascination with the paranormal was doing a ghost-hunting experiment in an old run-down 1800’s mansion.
My brother was the foreman for the rehab of this mansion and he let a few of us in to have a little look-see.
I decided to my compass to check for any paranormal activity since the needle will go “haywire” around any paranormal activity.
It turns out this mansion was once the home of Henry Perky; the inventor of the famous breakfast cereal Shredded Wheats.
There was no electricity in the house at the time so we had to use flashlights to get around inside safely.
As we were walking through the old mansion I was steady checking on the compass to see if it was moving.
This place was huge. I mean it was room after room after room.
You could easily get lost in there if you weren’t careful.
As the group was walking through the shared bathroom that connected the two bedrooms my compass began spinning like crazy.
I was showing the compass to everyone in our group and they wanted to get the hell out of there.
It turned out that the shared bathroom was where one of the mistresses of the house had killed herself. True story.
I have tons more paranormal stories to share with you but I might wait until Halloween time to write them.
More Personal Development material please
I also bought audio-programs that I could listen to in my truck while driving or when cutting the grass and any other menial chores that I had to do.
I listened to Tony Robins, Napoleon Hill, a course on NLP, Robert G Allen’s Multiple Streams Of Income and dozens more.
The funny thing is now I do the majority of my reading online.
I think because I am looking at words all day and listening to podcasts that I no longer feel compelled to read more books or listen to more audio-programs off-line.
I believe that reading those books and listening to those programs turned me into the person that I am today.
Without them I would probably be living the average life working the 9 to 5 grind and wondering why I am feeling so miserable.
What all of this knowledge did for me was open my eyes and expand myself to the realization that life is not a one size fits all model.
We are all uniquely different beings. What works for you may not work for me and vice versa.
Some cool things that I have experienced
Personal development also got me out of my comfort zone and got me to try things that I would have never done otherwise.
Bungee jumping, snorkeling in the Bahamas, scuba diving in the Cayman’s, hand feeding ten foot long stingrays while in the water with them, traveling overseas to Ireland, swimming in a stream in a rainforest in Puerto Rico, buying my first home at age 23, being a father, a husband, becoming alcohol free (almost 6 years now) forgiving people and myself, voicing my opinion, a political precinct captain, carrying-out a complete rehab of my current home which I did 90% of the work myself and starting this blogging business.
But I digress.
The point is that when life becomes dull, boring and routine that is the signal for us that we are way too deep into our comfort zone.
We need some stretching, some growing something new and exciting.
There are plenty of awesome things in life to experience so let’s begin opening up to the possibility of experiencing something for the first time.
What is something that you have been eager to try but feel held back from doing?
Remember: Life begins outside of our comfort zone and we can’t get out of our comfort zone without self confidence.
Self confidence is the key ingredient to personal growth. Without it we are too afraid to step outside our comfort zone.