“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience.
As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question.
Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!
Take a Deep Breath
Do me a favor and take a deep breath and relax.
Do it again, exhale it.
Do it one more time but hold it and don’t exhale your breath. Keep holding it, keep holding it, don’t exhale, alright exhale and let it go.
It feels good to exhale doesn’t it?
Of course it does.
Holding your breath is just a simple exercise to show you why you don’t want to hold on to things that don’t serve you.
Breathing in oxygen serves you right? But so does exhaling it. If you didn’t exhale and let it out, you would definitely pass out.
It didn’t serve you to not release your breath and neither do states of being that are not your natural self.
I’ll give you an example of me holding on to something instead of just letting it go. Mazzastick got the Google slap as did millions of other blogs out there .
Google recently introduced its latest search algorithm update known as “Penguin” and many good sites got penalized after it went into effect.
Mazzastick was averaging over 200 search visitors a day since last October.
After the latest Google algorithm change I began getting around 20 to 30 search visitors a day. Ouch! (Note, this is only search traffic through Google, this doesn’t include direct traffic, and social media traffic.)
So what did I do?
I spent hours upon hours tweaking my blog for bad links, duplicate content and updating archived posts hoping that it would make a difference.
I felt frustrated because my monthly website traffic went from over 10,000 visitors a month down to about 3000 visitors a month.
I had to let it go
What I did was a simple demonstration of trust in my abilities and I had to come to my senses. I let go. It was what it was, and there wasn’t much I could do about it.
It also got me to look into other ways to get traffic to my site instead of relying on Google searches. The number one source of traffic to my site now is direct visits followed by referral visits.
Relax and Breathe
This post is just a reminder that unexpected things happen in our lives all the time and the last thing you want to do is let something out of your control bring you down or out of alignment with who you really are.
I was dumbfounded by the Google slap, but I did not stay there for long because I let it go. I dropped it, I let it go, I stopped holding on. It worked for me.
Each day after I let go of what had happened I noticed myself caring less and less about it.
I figured eventually things will correct themselves which they are.
Usually Saturdays are my more slow days for search traffic but when I last checked it around 6:00 pm I had over 50 search visitors which is a good sign that things are improving.
Get Into a State of Knowing
A state of knowing or knowingness is your natural state of being. You know which states feel right to you and which do not, which states serve you and which ones do not.
Your natural state of knowing is the state of actually knowing yourself.
Knowing yourself will help you to discern more clearly all the things that are you and are not you. When you know who you are, when you can filter out who you are not, your life will align perfectly to your true nature.
Relax, relax, relax all the things that are not of the knowing state. Do this day by day and moment by moment. If it doesn’t feel right to you, let it go.
The beautiful thing about letting go of the things that are not you, about things you don’t yet understand is the key to truly enjoying your life.
With the Google update I was making my head spin trying to correct and solve the problem, I was holding on so to speak.
After I let go and realized I didn’t have the answers, the answers came to me. As I read about many other bloggers out there who got hit by the Google Penguin update I felt assured that I hadn’t done anything wrong at all.
Letting it go was the key!
Your New Way of Being – Let ItGo
You had a bad day. Let it go!
You said the wrong thing. Let it go!
You did the wrong thing. Let it go!
You made a mistake. Let it go!
You acted in a way that isn’t you. Let it go!
You made a bad choice. Let it go!
You keep making the same mistakes. Let it go!
Your not perfect. Let it go!
The World is not as you’d like it to be. Let it go!
People are not as you’d like them to be. Let it go!
Your job sucks. Let it go!
Let it go! Let it go! Let it go!
Seriously, Let it Go! 🙂