“Nothing is perfect. Life is messy. Relationships are complex. Outcomes are uncertain. People are irrational.” –Hugh Mackay
Many of us get on the path of personal development in order to achieve perfection in ourselves.
Or maybe we decided to follow a spiritual path instead that will lead us to achieve spiritual perfection.
The good news is that you are already perfect and that there is no need to try to achieve something that you already are.
This doesn’t mean that you will not grow and expand and experience joys as well at stumbling blocks along the way.
But you can now realize that being perfect will not excuse you from participating in life and the dramas that come with it.
The situations that occur in our lives will come to us perfectly when we allow it.
This doesn’t mean that we have to accept that the things that are occurring in our lives are what we really want or prefer, because we can always prefer our lives to be the way we want them to be.
But the way to allow yourself to create the life that you desire, is by allowing what is happening now, so that you can then begin to accept that the way it is now serves a purpose.
It is part of your path of learning by experience.
What you are learning is there for a reason; your reason.
There is something in every life experience to learn from and reflect on for your benefit.
This is a process called growth.
Growth just means expansion from who you were to who you have become.
If you choose to take your awareness away from the event then you will not have grown, expanded , or learned anything.
It’s like taking a class on writing and you sleep through the entire presentation.
What did you get from the experience, what did you learn, and what do you remember?
Perfection is also a way to avoid dealing with some aspect in ourselves that needs examining.
I’ve been to social gatherings where I see people’s behaviors and I see the ones who try really hard to say and do the “right” thing.
Eventually after some party fatigue has set in their mask comes off and we get to see them unedited.
You Are Already Complete
We come into this world as an already complete and functioning individual.
Somewhere along the way we get this belief instilled in us that we are not good enough, not behaving well enough, or some other kind of expression indicating lack in ourselves.
This is where we start to believe in the idea of trying to be perfect.
If I can just be perfect enough then I can have whatever it is I want.
I know because I spent more than half of my life trying to be perfect and the results that I were after never manifested.
So the next step for me was to give up and have a kind of I don’t give a crap attitude. That didn’t work for me either.
Knowing that you are complete, perhaps focused not in a way that you prefer to be, but knowing that you are complete, gives you the opportunity at any given moment, to know that you have the ability to refocus on any given desire.
If and when you notice that life is not reflecting back to you the way that you prefer it to, just remember that the moment is still perfect, even if your experience is not.
The key is to release judgment about your experience and allow it to be.
Every moment is a stepping stone to the next moment.
- Michael Tsarion – The Shadow Self
- Why Your Ego is a Good Thing to Have
- Creative Visualization with Lisa Nichols