Introvert Personality Type – Go Away Please!

“I don’t hate people, I just feel better when they’re not around.” – Charles Bukowski – Introvert

This post is for all you introvert’s out there. For the record I am an INFJ, an Aries, and a Type A, and I primarily function as an introvert, yet I can be quite extroverted at times – (Outgoing Introvert). It all really depends on my energy levels, the people and environment I am in, and if I am trying to accomplish something in that scenario.

One of my favorite past hobbies as an adult was going to a bookstore, getting a cup of coffee and read a book for several hours. I loved doing this because generally I was left alone, yet I wasn’t alone because the bookstore was full of people.

Introverted people tend to turn inward and are more focused on internal thoughts, feelings and moods instead of seeking out external stimulation.

Introverts experience the world differently than extroverts. Introverts take the outside world in approach which means the energy and the forms of the outside world comes in through them, gets processed, and then the introvert interprets that energy into reality.

An extrovert processes the world from within them and then projects itself into the outside world.

Introverts tend to live within themselves, not preferring to mingle with people in the outside world very often. Many prefer to just be left alone in most situations, which appears to other people as a type of dissociative disorder, or a mild form of autism, which in case it may actually be.

You see, most introverts see through other people’s masks for who they really are and often times choose to not bother to get involved with all the trivialities of the outside world, including the people in it.

For introverts, heaven is being in a comfy room, full of books, or a great movie, enjoying some good food, or drink, and just soaking everything in.

The reason introverts don’t enjoy the outside world matrix much, (except being alone in nature or attending a sophisticated event), is because introverts do not want to soak up all the chaos, mental noise, and drama of the outside world. For introverts this is a type of self-preservation mechanism.

Introverts need their alone time in a comfortable setting daily as much as all humans need oxygen.

In many North Asian cultures, particularly Japan, the introverted personality is preferred to the extroverted personality. This is because the Japanese culture understands that careful contemplation and introspection is key to achieving a more balanced persona.

In America particularly, the extroverted persona is preferred because it allows people to more fully understand what a person is actually like, what they are thinking, and what they believe in.

Both societies come with their own limitations with preferring introverted or extroverted tendencies.

Introvert Quote

Introverts & Extroverts – Ying & Yang

We live in a duality, so why wouldn’t we have different personality types? In a world full of extroverts, we need calm, cool, and collected introverts to balance out the energy. Next time you are out in a group setting make a note to see who is introverted and who is extroverted and bless them both.

Both groups are needed. Being in a room full of extroverts can make you feel overstimulated and jaded, while being in a room full of introverts may leave you feeling, bored, isolated, and in dire need of some connection.

What it’s like to be an Introvert

Introverts may have an extreme sensitivity to the brain chemical Dopamine as well as an overactive parasympathetic nervous system and reptilian brain, whereas extroverts can’t get enough Dopamine, and they love having their parasympathetic nervous system pedal to the floor because it’s positively exciting and rewarding to them.

Introverts are sensitive to too much of this brain chemical and too much parasympathetic activity. As a result, introverts need a lot of down-time and alone time after too much sensory overload experiences.

I liken it to someone who has gotten bad sunburn. The worst thing you could do is go back out into the sun when you have sunburn. The smart thing to do would be to avoid the sun for a few days until your skin has healed.

The same goes with an introvert. Too much stimulus, too much peopling, too much work, too many responsibilities, too much putting yourself “out there”, and a hectic schedule all create a need for some downtime, rest, and recuperation.

I remember my first week transitioning from elementary school (grade 5) to middle school (grade 6.) Elementary school was very organized and controlled, but I found middle school to be chaotic at first because I wasn’t adjusted to it yet.

The biggest challenge for me was having to find all my classrooms on my own. In elementary school we walked (quietly) together as a class from room to room. In middle school, you were on your own. I also found myself overstimulated in the hallways between classes. Every student in the school at once rushing through the hallway, along with the high energy levels, and noises like people talking and locker doors opening and shutting close, all left me feeling extremely over-stimulated.

It took me a few weeks to adjust and get comfortable with this new atmosphere.

Introverts and Extroverts – Cats and Dogs

Cats are introverts because they are not pack animals and they prefer their solitary lifestyle, whereas dogs (extroverts) are pack animals and prefer the company of others.

Cats prefer:

  • To be selective with whom they give their loyalty and affection to
  • To be calm, cool, and collected
  • Small amounts of attention
  • Prefers to stay home and rest in their favorite spot
  • Not to follow the crowd (herd mentality)
  • Not to follow anyone’s demands
  • To be alone
  • Introverted owners because they understand their needs and wants

Dogs Prefer:

  • Being around people
  • Going out for walks and to parks
  • Becomes happy with food and other treats
  • To follow the crowd (herd mentality)
  • To follow commands
  • Extroverted owners because they understand their needs and wants

I do not own any pets, but if I did, I would prefer a cat because they are generally low maintenance and prefer to be left alone. For home security purposes, I would get a dog though.

What is an Introvert – Wiki

Introverts often take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, using computers, hiking and fishing. The archetypal artist, writer, sculptor, scientist, engineer, composer and inventor are all highly introverted. An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though they may enjoy interactions with close friends.

Trust is usually an issue of significance: a virtue of utmost importance to introverts is choosing a worthy companion.[citation needed] They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time and like to observe situations before they participate, especially observed in developing children and adolescents.

They are more analytical before speaking, and may struggle with word retrieval. Introverts are easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation from social gatherings. This has led to the popular concept of the “introvert hangover,” a term describing the fatigue and “crash” introverts feel after lengthy social engagements.

 Socializing is not the only kind of stimulus that can overwhelm introverts, however; introversion has been defined by some authors as a preference for a quiet, more minimally stimulating external environment.” >>>Read more about introverts on wiki

Introvert Personality Traits & Characteristics

  • Excel’s in reading, writing, and any activity that allows them solitude
  • Craves alone time to recharge their batteries and to process recent experiences
  • Prefers a small circle of friends
  • Does not enjoy loud, crowded, places
  • Prefers the company of people we can relax and recharge with
  • Writes better than we speak
  • Dislike’s busy schedules
  • Prefers sitting in pajamas watching movies than going out to a party or club
  • Finds socializing trite and boring
  • Giving a talk to 500 people is less stressful than having to mingle with those people afterwards
  • Prefers to sit at the end of row seating in movies, church, restaurants etc.
  • Shuts down after too much “peopling.”
  • Tendency to overthink
  • Dislikes “traditional systems” like school, 9-5 grind, marriage, holidays etc. Basically, if everyone is doing it then introverts do not prefer it.
  • Prefers structure as opposed to random chaos
  • Are often highly intelligent with deep thinking and soul searching abilities
  • Likes to contemplate about life, ideas, and concepts
  • Dislike’s needy, clingy relationships
  • Prefers jobs that allow them to work independently
  • Doesn’t like group activities because it makes them feel claustrophobic
  • Most hate talking on the phone
  • Introverts prefer to be left alone, whether out in public or at home
  • Dislike’s constant drama whiners, and complainers
  • Doesn’t like to go to every party, family gathering, happy hour…
  • Often internalizes things going on around them (Stuck in the mind)
  • Needs to rest up before engaging in social activities and afterwards

Actors being Introverts

Many introverts develop a method approach on how to cope in this world with extroverted skills. Many actors are indeed extroverts and they use the “stage” as a place to allow them to open up and express their extroverted abilities.

Many actors are nothing like they appear on stage. Most, in one on one settings are quiet, and aloof, preferring to be by themselves or with people they are close too.

“I think Introversion has a lot more to do with authenticity and bringing something real out of yourself (and seeing real things in others) than it has to do with how many people are involved or watching. I think we should always come back to the concept that it is about our energy coming from inside of us more than it does for others, and that people distract us from the incredible dialog we are having with ourselves.

I’d say that more of the Extroverts who perform don’t make it above either a Karaoke or Cover Band type of thing, because they’re unoriginal and are only in it for the attention, rather than making a statement. Sure, they’ll be able to charm everyone at a back yard BBQ or small club, and everyone will dance and smile…and when their good looks wear out, they’ll go get a real estate license. But the true artists out there are the visionaries that spend a lot of time by themselves, dedicated to their craft and fascinated by the process, because it’s the path to understanding themselves.

Introversion is about invention, deviation from the norm, discovery, and creation for its own sake. Those are the poets and great minds. You don’t get that sort of depth in the works of an Extrovert. An Extrovert just wants to make sure everyone is having a good time, will cater to the vibe of the crowd, and says things like, “How is everybody doing tonight? I can’t hear you!” Extroverts make their performances about the audience and selling drinks and merchandise. An Introvert performer says, “Let’s take a trip into my strange inner world, I’ll show you all of the special things I found in it. Some of it might be terrifying or confusing, but it’s REAL, and if you don’t like it, don’t listen.”


Best Jobs for an Introvert

  • Psychologist
  • Counselor
  • Philosopher
  • Blogger
  • Librarian
  • Art Critic
  • Writer
  • Dog Walker
  • House Sitter
  • Non Profit/ Charity
  • Life Coach
  • Diplomat
  • Scientist
  • Cook/Baker
  • Internet Marketer
  • Photographer

Introverts in relationships

Introverts need alone time, and this can be a challenge if the introvert’s partner is a chronic extrovert. When an introvert is alone, it allows them a chance to open up their energy field (chakras) and just be themselves. When introverts are with others, they tend to constrict their energy somewhat which can lead to problems if there isn’t any alone or quiet, undisturbed time to just open up and feel.

Introverts prefer to take relationships slow because they don’t want to get in too deep too quickly.

Often times, especially if I am stuck in the house with my family for extended periods of time like Christmas Break, I will tell my wife to go out and eat or shop and take my son with her. Wait, before you judge me, I always give them money or tell them to use my credit card when they go out. It’s a win-win. 🙂

Could an Introvert Become President and Other Political Positions

This is a tough one because people generally like their leaders to be outgoing and extroverted. I believe if people were more informed about introverted personalities, they wouldn’t be so harsh to them because of the lack of their outward outrage or passion in regards to political matters.

What most people don’t understand is that introverts experience outrage on the mental level and it most likely will not be expressed into the physical world unless under rare circumstances.

An introvert would make a great leader as long as the people understand that a lack of outward passion does not equal no passion at all.

One thing an introverted leader has over most extroverted leaders is the ability to feel the energy, beliefs, and attitudes of their people. Being able to possess this gifts allows them to make decisions to serve the greater good of the people and the Country, or community.

Did you see the John Adam’s miniseries starring Paul Giamatti? (He nailed it btw), If not, what are you waiting for. It’s a great mini-series and shows you what the political scene was like in the early years of the United States. I recall one scene early in the miniseries where State Delegates including George Washington Benjamin Franklin, Samuel Adams, John Hancock and John Adams are gathered in a meeting room at the Philadelphia Congress, deciding what to do about the British power hold over them.

While everyone was busy yapping and being disgruntled, one man sat among them, quiet within himself, holding himself back, observing, listening and being still.

The man that was quiet, being to himself, was none other than Thomas Jefferson. There is one scene after Congress was held where Adams and Jefferson are having a dialogue outside Carpenter’s Hall.

Jefferson lets Adams know his real feelings toward Britain. After Jefferson states his feelings, Adams says to him, “Well, I have not heard you say three words together in the last Congress, with such passion I regret you’ve not made your mind more plainly known.

Jefferson responds, “I have no gift for oratory.

Most introverts hold back in the beginning of any relationship – including politics. This is because they are busy taking in all the information, they are observing the people, their mannerisms, their attitudes, their demeanor. Eventually after the introvert has processed enough information they will gradually incorporate themselves into the matter at hand. It is quite known among introverts that their writing skills are much better than their speaking skills.

Introvert Quotes

  1. I don’t want to be alone. I want to be left alone.” – Audrey Hepburn
  2. Sometimes I just stay inside because it feels too ‘peopley’ out there.” – Unknown
  3. Beware of those who seek constant crowds; they are nothing alone.” – Charles Bukowski
  4. I restore myself when I’m alone.” – Marilyn Monroe
  5. Most inventors and engineers I’ve met are like me. They’re shy and they live in their heads. The very best of them are artists. And artists work best alone.” – Steve Wozniak
  6. My first instinct when I see an animal is to say “hello”. My first instinct when I see a person is to avoid eye contact & hope it goes away.” – Unknown
  7. I think a lot, but I don’t say much.” – Anne Frank
  8. Introverts are capable of acting like extroverts for the sake of work they consider important, people they love, or anything they value highly.” – Susan Cain
  9. The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude.” -Aldous Huxley
  10. I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You’re not competing with another person, you are competing with my comfort zones.” – Horacio Jones


Famous Introverts

  • Thomas Jefferson
  • Richard Gere
  • Janis Joplin
  • Charles Darwin
  • Marilyn Monroe
  • Jimi Hendrix
  • Clint Eastwood
  • Cate Blanchett
  • Jim Carrey
  • Bob Dylan
  • Steven Spielberg
  • Christina Aguilera
  • Daniel Day Lewis
  • Abraham Lincoln
  • George Carlin
  • Courtney Cox
  • Marlon Brando
  • Steve Wozniak
  • Johnny Depp
  • Prince
  • George Lucas
  • Larry Bird
  • Beyoncé’ Knowles
  • Leonardo DiCaprio
  • Keanu Reeves


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