“No matter what, people grow. If you chose not to grow, you’re staying in a small box with a small mindset. People who win go outside of that box. It’s very simple when you look at it.” – Kevin Hart
In America, I can’t speak for the rest of the world; people have a lot of expectations of what they are supposed to do with their lives.
Not only do we have expectations of what to do with our lives, we seldom hesitate to tell others what to do with their lives too!
As if there is a one size fits all model.
Just about everyone believes they are supposed to get married.
The sad part is most people don’t have a clue about how to relate to themselves honestly, needless to say, they can’t relate to others very well either.
I’ve been to at least a dozen weddings in my lifetime, and 80% of them (probably higher) are currently divorced or separated.
It makes me wonder if most of the “You have to get married crowd” really had no intention of staying married.
Maybe they just did it to get it off their “Must Do List.” according to American standards of conduct.
Personal relationships are not easy by any stretch, and when you consider being married means you share so much time and responsibility with another person, it is no wonder why this type of arrangement seldom lasts.
So between sharing a space together, sharing responsibilities and the million and one other countless things married people are supposed to do for each other, they are also wanting something more but they just can’t seem to find the energetic space to do so.
It’s no wonder marriages don’t last when you consider so much is being cramped into one relationship.
This is not to say marriage can’t last to the end of your life. It still does for some couples out there and kudos to them for making it last.
I think the relationships that do last are based on more realistic expectations of themselves and their partners.
But the truth is, most people are not willing to do the necessary work on themselves to sustain a relationship.
What I mean when I say working on themselves is to learn how to see things in a more objective way and to stop blaming their partners for everything that isn’t working out in their lives.
Relationships are a mirror of yourself so stop the blame game, it’s beneath you.
That is their primary purpose. If you do not wish to improve the way you relate to others, then I would suggest staying out of relationships altogether.
Know that the fault you find in others is a reflection of a fault in yourself. Be to others just as you would have others be to you, and you will remove much of the negative consequences.
I have a friend who has been married three times. I once asked him what makes this relationship any different than the other two.
He told me there is a lot more space in this relationship. He told me that he and his wife seldom eat together and that they do a lot of things with other people.
He and his wife like to travel together but beyond that they don’t have a lot in common.
So instead of wanting each other to do things they don’t like to do, they’ve found friends to do those things with.
He also told me that he doesn’t have any insecurity issues with his wife. He said if she leaves me or cheats on me, I couldn’t care less. I am not her keeper and she is not mine.
We basically act like free sovereign beings within our relationship. Granted, we never argue with each other and we both like to have fun in the bedroom.
He went on to tell me his first two marriages were completely the opposite.
Here are a couple of interesting facts about marriage:
- The marriage rate in the United States has fallen to an all-time low. Right now it is sitting at a yearly rate of 6.8 marriages per 1000 people.
- America has the highest divorce rate in the world by a good margin.
- According to the Pew Research Center, only 51 percent of all American adults are currently married. Back in 1960, 72 percent of all adults in the United States were married.
- An all-time high 59 percent of all Americans believe that the traditional definition of marriage needs to be changed.
Source (The Truth Wins.com).
I’m not against education; however school is in need of a complete overhaul.
How about teaching kids how to cultivate their talents and skills instead of memorizing useless facts?
How about teaching kids real people skills that they can use the rest of their lives?
How about teaching kids the art of self-care and self-love?
How about teaching kids the art of cooperating instead of competition?
Competition states there is not enough whereas cooperation teaches we both can have what we want without anyone having to do without.
The reason kids seem to rebel in school is because the system doesn’t work according to who they are.
School is set up similarly to a workplace environment. Some even compare school to a prison except you get to leave at the end of the day. Yuck!
Either way, school needs to balance itself in regards to the needs, wants, and desires of the students, not just the other way around.
Life is a two way street!
School needs to educate/teach children their real part in this world.
Children are the future active occupants of this planet and part of their challenge is to learn to be able to co-exist with planet Earth, while preserving and protecting her.
Earth is a living library of information and when we destroy rain forests, dump pollutants into the water and air, and not to mention deep drilling into her flesh, we are ultimately saying, “Hey Earth, we don’t care about you, we’re merely parasiting off your natural resources until there is nothing left of you and then we’ll find another planet to do the same thing to.”
(BTW, it’s been theorized this is what happened with Mars up until its atmosphere and land was destroyed about 10,000 years ago, but that’s for another post.)
To destroy a planet that allows us to live on her is a mortal sin that will cause us great suffering if we do not collectively change our ways.
To destroy a planet’s water, air or any other resources in the name of a greed driven profit is just plain DUMB!
The Earth is alive, and she is a conscious being just like us.
Do you really believe that natural occurrences that destroy homes and people are just a mere coincidence?
I got news for you, it is not. She is giving us a “wake up call” to get our priorities in check. Without a healthy, thriving planet to live on, everything else is “moot point.”
We need to remember that the United States is a Republic, not a dictatorship. If people want to see real change in our current government structure it is going to have to happen from within.
Anyone who knows about how change happens knows the best approach is to conquer it from within.
To become part of it from the inside so you can change it.
That is why so many of you have incarnated on this planet at this time. Not to continue the status quo, but to change it.
So, to all my Facebook friends and other people I hear complaining about the Government I offer this suggestion to you. Go get yourself elected to an office from within the Government.
Work your way up the ladder. Get your friends and like-minded people to join you and then you can co-create the Government you prefer.
Bashar says: You are your governments, there is no separation. They are run by people just like you. Do not call them “they.” It is us. Be your governments, express what you truly prefer.
If you wish to make changes, then unify and make them. If you wish to express what you prefer your governments to do, then express it.
When the people lead, the leaders will follow, so lead the way!
Don’t succumb to the idea of giving your power away to others; take your power back in a positive, constructive and loving way.
Getting a job/work/career/income
Everyone thinks that getting a 9 to 5 is the only way to make a living. I got news for you, it’s not true.
There are tons of ways to earn money besides just trading your time for money on someone else’s schedule.
Trading your time for money is not a bad choice when you love your work; however, if you are trading your time for money in a job that leaves you feeling hopeless, then you might want to rethink how you earn money.
There are network marketing companies you can work for, there is freelance work, you can earn online, you can invent something, you can invest your money to make more money the possibilities are endless.
You need to pick a career or job or life path that suits you based on your personality construct.
Some people love the idea of working for a company until they retire, while other people tend to get easily bored if they do not have new opportunities presented to them.
Could you imagine Mark Cuban of Shark Tank sitting in a cubicle?
Me neither because that is not who he is. Mark is a go-getter, high achieving type of person and I know he wouldn’t settle for having someone else dictate to him what he can and can’t do.
The unhappiest people in the world are usually conformists. They do what the majority of the people do and are completely jaded because of it.
They’ve done what everyone before them has done and have gotten the same result.
They usually bounce from job to job or relationship to relationship always blaming the job or the other person, but seldom themselves.
The change has got to happen on the inside first, by changing what you believe to be true.
There are tons of people who have been able to live a more then comfortable life by doing things their own way. They are known as entrepreneurs!
Steve Pavlina talks about jobs in his post about living paycheck to paycheck. (Note, Steve is not suggesting that we sit idle all day instead of contributing. He suggests we are much better off working for our freedom instead of working for someone else’s freedom.)
Historically speaking, wealthy people have done a pretty good job convincing the masses that getting a job is the way to go.
This is nothing but brainwashing though.
If you get a job, you can’t complain about the wealthy growing wealthier because you’re helping them do it.
You’re doing the work of building and running systems that someone else owns and controls. How does that help you in the long run? All you’re doing is tending to your master’s plantation.
If you dread going to work each day and have a hard time motivating yourself, perhaps you should stop volunteering for slave labor.
Whenever I make statements like this, somebody will say, “But we have to have jobs and employees. Otherwise who would pick up the garbage?” That’s the same thing as saying, “But we need to have slaves. Otherwise who will harvest the tobacco?”
Is that reason enough to serve as a slave?
Perhaps we can come up with better solutions if people stop submitting to slavery. Maybe we don’t need to generate so much garbage (and tobacco) in the first place. Personally I would rather trade value with free people than with employees/slaves.
Changes I see happening in the world today
I see lots of single people with no intention of getting married. I see lots of married people with no intentions of having kids.
I see couples that have a polyamorous relationship with others.
I see neighbors helping neighbors when the power goes out and the temperature is near freezing outside.
I see people volunteering their time to help feed the hungry, to donate items to those who need them.
I see people cleaning up trash around their neighborhood so they don’t end up polluting our waters.
I see people using organic products to clean their homes and to rid their gardens of weeds.
I see people earning their living online while still having plenty of time to spend with their family.
I see my friends who have been on the fence about starting their own blog and sharing their unique points of view with the world finally doing it.
I see spiritual minded people running for U.S. Congress. Good job Marianne Williamson!
What I see happening with people in the world today is dissatisfaction with the status quo.
And because of this dissatisfaction they are opening up to entirely new ways of being.
Remember, not too long ago in this country women couldn’t vote and owning another person as property was considered legal.
We came together, we saw the injustices and we wanted change.
The change came from within first and then we changed the world.
The time has come again to make big changes within our current world paradigm. The old is the old, and the new is the new.
We can keep choosing the old, or we can embrace a new way of living.
I am not bashing marriage, education, government or jobs just for the sake of it.
Once again, everything that exists is in a constant state of improvement, even if we have been in a state of making them worse.
It’s time now to change directions once again and take our world into a place of cooperation, serving the greater good and allowing people the right and freedom to be who they really are without the need for them to conform to mine or anyone else’s expectations for how they should live their personal lives.
I am inviting you today to give yourself a permission slip to step out of the conformist box and instead live your life according to your personal wants, needs, beliefs, and values.
You will only be this “you” one time. So be it to the fullest!
Did you know that over 80% of people don’t choose their religion?
Nope, they were coerced into the same religion that their family subscribed to. Where is the freedom in that? Where is the individuality in that?
The time is here; the place is now to give yourself permission to freely choose the personal life you want to live and at the same time to help facilitate the co-creation of a world that allows our highest nature (our best selves) to rule.
I found a couple of sources below that give some insights on 3 very important principles.
- We are conscious energy that is connected to each other and not separate as we have been taught to believe.
- We are way more powerful then we believe.
- We are infinitely more powerful when we work together to bring about positive change within ourselves.
David Cameron Gikandi says in his book: A Happy Pocket Full of Money
“Science shows us that everything is made up of energy and exchanges that with everything else at all times in a most complex way. It is the building block of all matter. The same energy that composes your flesh is the same one that composes the bricks of your house and the trees outside. It is all the same. It is constantly at flow, changing form all the time. This is a very simple explanation of a rather complex thing.”
Here’s a partial excerpt from an interview with Author and Speaker Gregg Braden about the angst and discomfort that people are feeling now.
Gregg Braden: Everybody feels that something is happening, but they can’t quite put their finger on what it is. There’s an underlying tension that transcends borders and nations; people everywhere feel that something has changed.
There was a conference in 2005, “Crossroads for Planet Earth,” that brought together scientists, engineers, philosophers, religious leaders and spiritual leaders from all over the world to consider the question, “What’s going on?
Is this just early twenty-first-century paranoia, or is there really something unique going on here?”
The outcome of this question was so profound that Scientific American dedicated their September 2005 issue to the conference proceedings.
In the symposium, they identified six different scenarios (climate change, the threat of nuclear war, virulent and untreatable strains of viruses, et al.); any one of which, if allowed to go full-cycle, could forever end civilization and possibly life on Earth.
Our ancestors may have dealt with one or two of these problems at different times. But what makes this time in history so unique, said the symposium is that we’re experiencing all six of these situations at the same time.
If we’re going to survive this time, they concluded, we’ve got to figure it out in the next eight to fifteen years. “And the only way we’re going to do that,” they said, “is to think of ourselves and our relationship to the world completely differently than we have in the past.”
MANN: And that has to do with marrying the best of scientific insight with the best of spiritual wisdom.
BRADEN: Exactly. This convergence of crises may really by our opportunity to redefine who we are, how we work, and what our role in the universe is.
It comes down to the scientific question that occupied much of the twentieth century: Are we passive observers, insignificant specks with very little influence on the world? Or are we powerful creators that play a significant role in the way that reality unfolds? Interestingly, the answer to both questions is “Yes.”
It’s determined by how we choose to be, by our willingness to accept the power that’s born within each of us, to influence the quality of our relationships, the healing of our bodies, the success of our careers, and the peace between nations.
MANN: As an individual it’s easy to get into kind of an existential angst about feeling insignificant. Are you saying we’ve adopted that “I don’t matter” stance on a societal scale?
BRADEN: Yes, I think it’s our unconscious conditioning.
We became a science-based society about 300 years ago, when Sir Isaac Newton formalized the laws of physics.
Since that time, we have come to believe that we are powerless beings, victims of a world where everything is separate from everything else and we have very little influence over any of it.
This isn’t necessarily something we talk about around the water cooler at the office; it’s an unconscious conditioning that we all deal with to some degree.
Our entire civilization has been based upon two central false assumptions that are still being taught in our schools today.
The first false assumption is that the space between things is empty. We say, “Ninety-six percent of the universe is empty space.” What is matter—or you could say, what matters—is at most four percent.
The second false assumption is that our inner experience—our thought, feeling, emotion and belief—has no effect on the world beyond our own bodies.
Both these assumptions have been proven absolutely false. That isn’t theory, its scientific fact, documented in peer-reviewed journals. It just hasn’t made its way into our high school and college text books.
MANN: You’re speaking of “zero point field” research?
BRADEN: We now know there’s a field of energy that underlies all physical existence.
This field so new in its discovery that scientists have yet to agree upon a single term; it’s called everything from simply “the field” to “the mind of God,” to “nature’s mind.” In 1944, Max Planck, the father of quantum theory, called it “the matrix.”
We also know that we have the ability to “speak” in a language that resonates with this field, a nonverbal language of feeling and belief in our hearts.
When we do this, we effect physical healing within our bodies’ cells.
The key is to feel the feeling in a very precise way, as if the outcome of our heart’s desire has already happened. This sets into motion a response within our bodies where the chemistry matches that feeling.
Likewise, when we create the very precise feelings as if our career is already successful, our relationships and our partnerships are already in place and we have just the right people to accomplish all of the goals in just the right way, this sets into motion a mechanism in this field that allows those things to come to fruition.
Once we understand the mechanism, it becomes a technology, and we can do it consistently and repeatedly.
MANN: Is this approach connected with your work in mass prayer and focusing attention in large groups?
BRADEN: Exactly, the same principle applies whether with a relationship, healing the body, or peace between nations. If we want to influence the outcome, we can claim the feeling of it in our hearts, as if the outcome has already come to pass, rather than thinking we have to engineer the outcome step by step.
If you’re building a space shuttle or cooking a pie, then you want to go step by step. In the external, physical world, sometimes we have to gather our ingredients and then go through a sequence, building toward a goal bit by bit.
But in the quantum world of thought, emotion and belief, these principles don’t apply. In fact, it’s just the opposite: we have to identify, clearly and concisely, what the outcome is, because the universe can’t hit a moving target.