“Resistance to revelation, resistance to becoming conscious of all that dwells within us – high and low, light and dark – is the anti-change factor.
It is also the mainspring of all our psychological fears.” Guy Finley
The refusal to accept or comply with something; the attempt to prevent something by action or argument.
The ability not to be affected by something, especially adversely.
It’s the pressure you feel when you know you need to do something or make a change in your life.
It literally feels like something is pushing you.
What happens when someone pushes you? You push back or resist it.
Whenever you don’t want something, whenever something isn’t going the way you want it to go, whenever an uncertain situation is upon you.
Realize it is not the situation you are resisting, rather it is what the situation brings out in you that you are resisting.
Inner resistance at the root is not wanting to see yourself as you are and not about the thing you are facing.
It is an attempt on a part of yourself to keep you from the revelation that the problem is in your approach, it is in your nature or your natural reactions to circumstances that you are facing.
Fear, worry, stress, anger and being out of control.
This creates an conflict between two parts of you. Your spirit may want you to go in one direction, but your mind is saying, “no way man.”
How do you get your mind to cooperate especially when the change is in your best interest?
That’s tricky to say the least, but eventually your mind will let go of control and learn to go with the flow. The mind is a great tool to have but for most of us it gets in our way.
The mind only has the ability to remember what has already happened, but it has no idea whatsoever of what will happen in the future.
That is why when a major change needs to happen in your life the mind tends to get in the way, to block you.
Ultimately you have some preset outcomes during your Earth experience and truth be known, all roads lead there.
You don’t have to fret or worry about making the “wrong choice” for fear of becoming off course to where you are supposed to be.
This is what causes hesitation in many of you. “What if I make the wrong choice?” There are no wrong choices long-term.
Sure, you may make a choice that goes the opposite direction of where you are supposed to be going, but your soul, your intuition will always be there to get you back on track.
Many of you have experienced resistance for a while. You know you need to change yourself, your life, your career, but you feel stuck.
The long-held secret to becoming unstuck is to allow yourself to become vulnerable to life.
This doesn’t mean that you throw caution to the wind, rather you allow your life experience to change in the direction you want it to without letting fear get in the way.
Before I began writing this post I was experiencing some hesitation.
It was definitely on a subconscious level and the only way for me to get beyond the inner resistance was to just start writing.
Often times when I write I have no idea what I am going to write about. I just let the words flow out of me onto my word processor. The cool thing is that once I start writing the inner resistance disappears.
This happens to people a lot when it comes to things like exercise or school work.
They know some kind of action needs to be done yet they let their inner resistance win. Often this leads to long-term procrastination which eventually leads to stress.
I am a “just do it” kind of person. I don’t believe in putting things off.
I don’t know what will come up in the future but I do know now that I have the time to get done what needs to be done.
I don’t claim to be the smartest person, the most spiritual person or the “all knowing” person either. But where I do excel is at getting things done.
This one habit of being able to carry out a task to completion has been the very reason for success in my life.
Do you get done what needs to be done in your life?
Do you place it on your to do list in hopes that you can get it done someday?
What I suggest you do is start now with that thing you’ve put off doing that you know you need to do. Just go for it, just do it and don’t worry about how you will do it.
Once again, when the “how’s” come up that is just your mind saying that it doesn’t have the answers to getting things done.
Haven’t you been able to get things done without having to go through an entire mental checklist? I have and I am sure that you have too.
Get out of your own way here.
Just take the first step in the direction that you want to go and trust that everything you need to get things done will show up because they will.
Inner resistance occurs when one part of your mind wants to do, be or have something, yet another part of your mind resists it based on fear, usually due to past experiences.
Let’s say you want to ask someone out on a date, get a new job, or finally start a new exercise program.
Try this simple exercise
Place your arms out in front of your body.
Take each hand and make them touch each other like you are praying.
Now push each hand towards each other.
You have resistance on both ends.
One hand wants to go one way, and the other hand wants to go the other way.
Eventually one hand will wear out and the other will win, but this isn’t much of a strategy for creating positive outcomes in your life.
The key here is to resist nothing and just go into the direction you say you want to go.
Sally contacted me because she wanted to move out of her parents house.
She was 29 years old and still felt like a child because that was how her parents related to her.
Sally told me she felt scared (inner resistance) to the thought of moving out yet she felt a constant tugging in her soul to do so.
I asked her what beliefs she had about moving out on her own?
Sally replied that being on her own meant being alone and vulnerable in the world.
See, when Sally lived with her parents she had almost no responsibility except to keep an eye on the home when her parents were out-of-town.
The underlying belief was that Sally didn’t think that she could handle the responsibility of living on her own.
The truth is that she had never lived on her own so how could she possibly know. I told her my story of how I was 23 when I moved out on my own.
Yes, it was scary but it was necessary for my growth. I don’t regret it one bit and I knew that Sally wouldn’t either.
What Sally needed was the courage to become vulnerable to the uncertainties of the new life that she wanted to experience.
I have found that the lack of courage is the number one reason people don’t accept more challenges in their lives.
The truth is that a life full of total comfort and certainty is a recipe for boredom and lack of fulfillment.
You have to have the courage to get out of your comfort zone in order to feel any type of contentment and joy in your life.
The world is not a dangerous or scary place unless you believe it to be.
The World is a friendly place with more help and resources at your disposal than you could imagine. The only thing getting in your way of enjoying your life is YOU.
Are you getting in your own way?
Are you playing life too safe by spending the majority of your time in one of your boxes (your home, your office, the mall).
What you need is someone with whom you can confide in, rely on, to bounce ideas off without fear of judgment or ridicule.
“What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti