“Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.” – Dale Carnegie
Worrying happens when you let fear based thoughts spiral out of control.
Next thing you know, one fearful thought has escalated into a multitude of thoughts that have you believing that something bad is going to happen to you.
If you are like me, then you have done your fair share of worrying. I’ve had times when I would worry about almost everything, as if all events were some how under my control.
Later in life I realized that worry was a big waste of my time and energy. Soon after, I began researching and using different ways to manage my worry.
At first I would set aside twenty to thirty minutes in the evening to allow myself to worry.
This worked because my mind knew that sometime in the evening it would have free reign to worry itself silly.
After a while I grew tired with this strategy, and decided to rid myself of worry once and for all. My new way to deal with worry was to set up an action plan instead.
How do I stop worrying -Action Plan
I turned worry into problem solving.
Worry is the mind’s way of dealing with potential future problems. Worrying is also a habit that has fear at its base. This is the reason worrying is so damaging to the mind and body.
What I do now is set aside thirty minutes every evening to problem solve. Problem solving is a much more empowering feeling than worry don’t you think?
Many problems will come up during your day, and it is not always practical to stop what you are doing and solve them.
What I do is write things down that I can deal with later on a yellow legal pad. Then in the evening I can focus on the problems, and come up with creative solutions for them.
If a worry pops into your head, start by asking yourself whether the problem is something you can actually solve. The following questions can help:
Could the issue be some thing you’re presently experiencing, and not a mythical what-if?
If the problem is a mythical what-if, how likely is it to happen? Is the probability realistic?
Can you do something about the problem or prepare for it, or is it out of your control?
I’m a big proponent of action even in this time of law of attraction, where you can simply think about what you want and have it manifest.
Worry is a bad habit that you need to let go of. More than likely one of your parents were big worriers and you subconsciously (unconsciously) inherited this unproductive behavior from them.
Worrying and the Law of Attraction
Will your out of control thoughts create the things that you are worrying about?
The answer is no.
It is popular to believe that whatever you focus on you create. While I talk about thoughts creating your reality on my blog, it is only somewhat true.
Thoughts are the beginning of creating your reality, but you still have to become physically involved for it to manifest into your life.
Many LOA’ers get swept up in their efforts to monitor themselves and to stop themselves from thinking the “wrong” thoughts, saying the “wrong” things or saying things in the “wrong way.”
Many of them become frightened about this. This concern does not even allow them to express a thought of caution such as, “Did I remember to pay the electric bill?”
The Universe understands every underlying feeling that supports all the thoughts that run through your minds.
It is your deepest emotions that are powerful, not the random ones. It is your deepest desires that create waves of energy which ultimately can manifest into your physical reality.
Caution and fear are not the same. Caution is about being mindful of potential consequences. While fear is a state of being that will create drama, anxiety and internal pressure..
The opposite of mindfulness.
Basically for every fearful, terrifying thought you have you are really asking for the opposite to happen.
So get past the fearful part and just ask directly for what you really want to happen and take action if you can.
When I notice my mind going in a direction I don’t want it to go, I stop immediately and refocus it to where I want it to go and what I want to happen.
Here’s a brief example:
My mind begins worrying about money. Instead of letting my mind spiral out of control, I realign it in a direction that I do want it to go which is financial abundance (more than enough).
This allows me to remember that money always flows to me effortlessly and easily, which is my personal mantra.
Let go of the belief that thoughts create reality for a while and learn to trust that the Universe always knows exactly what you want and need, because it does.
At the core of all worry is an issue with trust and trusting what is happening in your life. The truth is that at every moment of every day life is unfolding exactly as it is supposed to.
Everything You Want Is On The Other Side Of Your Fear.