“The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear, and the oldest and strongest kind of fear is fear of the unknown.” – H. P. Lovecraft
The first personal growth book I read in 1994 was “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway” by Susan Jeffers.
It was a great book at the time for me because I had experienced much hesitation in my life because of fear.
Fear of the unknown, fear of what if something “bad” happens if I do this, and even the fear of success if you can believe that.
I have grown much since then, and learned much too.
So in this post I am going to discuss why it is not a good idea to do the thing you want to do while you are in a state of fear or one of its cousins, like apprehension or hesitation.
Getting into alignment with what you want
I’ve went ahead and done things in a state of fear before and I got mixed results.
Most of the time when I took the feel the fear and do it anyway approach I didn’t enjoy the experience, because mentally I was in a state of fear, concern, worry and caution.
I wasn’t able to get myself in a better feeling place which makes any experience, regardless of how dreadful it is, a better time.
About a month ago I was invited to go to a meeting for a new product being introduced in the insurance industry.
I didn’t really want to go (out of alignment) but something was nudging me to do so. So, I went anyway to the seminar which was held in a “meeting type” room at a real estate office.
I thought it was going to be a one on one style of meeting, but instead it was a group of people, (about 20) crammed into this small meeting room.
I almost got up right then and left as droves of people were being herded into this small, and rather warm meeting room.
The man leading the meeting talked for about an hour and I was miserable the whole time. It was basically a sales pitch to sign up under him and sell insurance products.
I get these types of offers online all the time too.
I value my time and I could have found out about this through a website or from the person who invited me instead.
I was kind of pissed because of the time wasted plus I HATE sitting in any type of meeting room. I had enough of them during my fifteen year stint in Corporate America.
What would have made the meeting more tolerable?
Had I had an idea of what to expect in the meeting and what it was all about I would have been able to subconsciously align myself with it and it would have been a breeze.
Instead I went there somewhat lost and confused and did my best to keep myself aligned while I was there. It wasn’t easy though.
What is alignment?
Living a better-feeling life really comes down to one thing only: coming into alignment with the Energy of our Source.
Abraham reminds us that we are truly Source Energy focused into our physical bodies, and that a conscious Connection to that Broader Non-Physical part of us is necessary if we are to be the joyful Beings that we were born to be.
Abraham calls that wonderful alignment Getting into the Vortex. – Abraham Hicks.com.
Alignment is all about desire.
When you desire something it is easy to get in alignment with it and when you have little or no desire to do something, getting into alignment feels impossible.
If I were to get into alignment with something I wanted to do or experience I would focus on things I find joyful.
When I am in a state of joy it becomes easy for me to get into alignment with who I am and to connect with what I want. I would remind myself how lucky I am to be alive, of what is going “right” in my life.
I focus on feeling good because when I feel good it brings me more good things to experience. The same goes for feeling bad.
It’s okay to look for things to feel good about. Sometimes we unconsciously think thoughts that feel bad to us and then what do we feel? Bad.
When this happens to me I re-focus my thoughts on things that make me feel good.
It’s a good idea to start your day with some thoughts about things that are going right in your life. Everyone has challenges; life is plenty with them so there’s no point in giving them undue attention.
Many of these things are beyond your control so let them go and focus on what you have control of; your thoughts.
I like to start my day by being in alignment with who I really am. Often times we get caught up thinking we are what we are feeling which is true to an extent.
What you are feeling, whether good or bad, is just a result of what you have been thinking about. So if thoughts are responsible for the way you feel then choose thoughts that make you feel good.
In the morning I might say these five things:
- I am so lucky to be alive and breathing.
- My body is doing a great job of keeping me healthy.
- Thank for my awesome family.
- I have the best friends in the World.
- Thank You for giving me an awesome place to live.
You can say anything you want that makes you feel good. Be creative, be outrageous and have fun with it. Life is supposed to be fun! You were meant to feel good about yourself!