Dealing with Every Day Chronic Stress

It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

Chronic stress is the response to emotional pressure suffered for a prolonged period over which an individual perceives he or she has no control.

It involves an endocrine system response in which occurs a release of corticosteroids – (Source/Google).

The word stress was originally an engineering term used to refer to the amount of force a beam or other physical support could bear without collapsing under the strain.

These days, stress would even include mental and emotional tension as well.

Everyone is under stress. As long as we keep our stress within reasonable limits, there shouldn’t be any problems. If stress gets out of control, than we can expect all kinds of problems to arise.

Stress related diseases and chronic stress disorder are on the rise in our fast-paced world. Since almost everything these days can be done quicker and faster than ever before, we expect what we want, exactly when we want it.

Stressed

So, what should you do about all this stress in your life? Great question! It’s rather simple, and simple is always the best solution.

Rest, relax, play and take care of the needs of your body before doing anything else.

When your body is rested and relaxed, even the biggest stressors are easier to handle.

How many of you get a cold or the flu, and then after taking a day or two off, jump right back into work without giving your body enough recuperation time?

Most of you?

Athletes in particular are good at giving their body adequate time to heal between injury and surgeries.

They know from experience, whether by their own or their peers, that rushing back to work without adequate rest and recuperation will almost always result in re-injuring themselves. Sometimes permanently.

We have it wrong when it comes to our priorities. There is a tendency to place all your thoughts and deeds on things outside of yourself.

Some common examples of stressors are: our jobs, kids, spouse, neighbors, friends, relatives, you name it. We drop the responsibility to ourselves and then, over commit to everyone and everything else.

No wonder stress related disease is on the rise. Why? Disease means literally dis-ease or unease in the body and mind.

Another debilitating belief we carry around is that life is supposed to be hard, a struggle and a challenge until the day we retire, or perhaps die.

I don’t buy into this belief at all. Life doesn’t always flow easily, but it doesn’t have to be a constant struggle either.

If I were in charge of public education in America, I would be teaching stress management and even better, stress prevention skills in preschool all the way through high school.

What better tool to have in this world than the ability to use discernment in your choices and to be able to keep your stress levels under control every day?

I don’t know what your experience was like growing up, but I didn’t have any role models when it came to stress management.

Most of the people I was around either verbally vented out their emotions, or went the opposite way and suppressed them via the “silent treatment”.

Or even worse, they drank alcohol to numb their feelings. All of these approaches don’t work long-term, because I tried them too.

So you’re probably asking yourself, what works; right?

Life is subjective, especially when it comes to dealing with other people. Everyone is different, one approach might work with person A and the same approach doesn’t work with person B.

No whining complaining frowning Only hugs smiles and warm fuzzy feelings allowed

What worked for me 

I decided to go the spiritual route. I used to think that people were the only source or means for feeling good about myself. I still feel that way at times, sure, but I don’t let other people have complete control about how I feel.

When I was younger I would be devastated if I had an argument with someone I truly cared about. These days, I don’t even argue, I may raise my voice though.  🙂

Understanding how the Universe works I no longer worry about losing a friend, a job, a lover or anything else. You want to know why?

The Universe is repelled by a vacuum.

What it means is that if you lose a job, okay one door closed, alright, have a look over here, this door just opened for you. A new job awaits you.

The same goes for friends, romantic partners and everything else.

The door will always open when one closes, so don’t let the thought of “Oh no, this relationship is going to end, I will die without them, oh no please don’t go.”

Let them go, if that is what they really want.

Something new will surely replace them. Its doubt and fear of the unknown that keeps us clinging onto the old.

Work on removing the doubt and replace it with certainty and you will have already won the battle in your mind.

Bashar Problems vs Challenges

Before you start, make sure you are thinking of this as a “challenge” rather than a “problem”, because “problems” are by definition difficult to resolve, and it is actually the way you choose to define your reality that determines the outcome you experience!   

A “challenge” is much more likely to have a desirable outcome than a “problem”.

Then, go into your imagination and imagine the version of reality you would like to be experiencing. Make sure you are including yourself in that picture.

Specifically, imagine the “ideal” version of you – the “you” you would most like to be.

Then insert this current challenging situation into your imaginary scene and notice how this imaginary “ideal you” handles the situation.

Then just copy that behavior out here!   Act the same way that the “you” in your imagination acted when confronting this situation. – Bashar

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