“Achievement of your happiness is the only moral purpose of your life, and that happiness, not pain or mindless self-indulgence, is the proof of your moral integrity, since it is the proof and the result of your loyalty to the achievement of your values”. – Ayn Rand
This is a guest post by Cathy Taughinbaugh of TreatmentTalk.
“When changing your values to match your genuine character, you generate the positive energy required to attract people and a way of life that matches your true vibration, and a life of peace and serenity will become possible.” ~ Sherry Gaba
Have you thought about your value system lately? What about your personal values? What about your cultural values?
Values and Beliefs are unique to us
Many of us were taught when we were young to have certain standards of behavior, and that our value system reflects the kind of person we are.
They were set by our family, friends, teachers and our environment. They reflected what our family or role models thought was important in life.
A value system can keep people moving along in life making good choices and being proud of who they are. As we grew and moved into adolescence, many of us began to rebel against what we were taught.
We questioned our core values and began to listen to our peers and the outside world. We may have lost sight of our true self. Some, but not all of us may have succumbed to the outside influence and made poor choices that changed our course in life.
We may have disconnected from our core values, and given in to choices that led to pain for ourselves and others. We may have given into our desires or cravings to the detriment of leading a healthy life.
Sometimes this was a brief flourish of experimentation, sometimes it was much more.
When we make the decision to transform our life to something more meaningful, many of those original core values that we once though were important can become a foundation for a better life.
Different groups in our society have different value systems for their way of life.
For example, a professional football player may have different values than a doctor. A teacher may have different values than her students. A teenager in the 60’s might have different values than a teenager today. Scientists may have different values than an executive.
Other cultures value different things in their society.
Good values are those that work for you at a certain moment in your life. You know when your values work for you because they speak to who you really are.
Your values can change as your life changes, and can be a road map that guides you through life. You will move in a more purposeful direction and the decisions you make based on your values will help you reach your goals.
A list of values that you can add to your life
Here are some core values and beliefs that some feel are important.
Accountability is being responsible and answerable to our behavior, and in doing so we create a sense of trust from others.
Appreciation is recognizing and enjoying the good qualities of someone or something, and all that life has to offer.
Authenticity is being honest, genuine and real. We show our true selves and do not compromise our values to be accepted by others.
Creativity is being able to go beyond traditional ideas, and create meaningful unexpected new ideas, by using our imagination.
Dependability is being able to demonstrate that we are reliable and worthy of trust. People know they can count on us.
Focus is being able to concentrate on a particular activity and give it our full attention. When you can “zero in” on a particular outcome, more often than not you will be successful.
Generosity is possessing the quality of being unselfish, kind, willing to share. There is no price tag on the satisfaction you get when you make someone’s life a bit better. The best way to be happy is by bringing happiness to others.
Honesty is being truthful, sincere and free from deceit or fraud. We cheat not only others, but ourselves when we are dishonest. We gain the respect of others when we are honest and feel good about ourselves.
Patience is having the capacity to accept delay, trouble or suffering without getting angry or upset. Practicing patience with others really involves two things: compassion and acceptance.
Self-reliance is being able to rely on our own power and resources and not those of others. Those that do the best in life realize early on that no one is going to save them. When we rely on ourselves, we become strong.
Tolerance is being willing to accept another’s opinion or behavior that we do not necessarily agree with. It allows us to be open.
Willingness to Explore – We are open and willing to listen to new ideas and try new things which gives us the opportunity to have an interesting life filled with rich, rewarding experiences.
What values and beliefs do you stand for? What would you be willing to defend?
Cathy Taughinbaugh writes on addiction, recovery and treatment atTreatmentTalk.org. You can also follow her on Facebook at Treatment Talk and twitter @treatmenttalk.